"The benefits of friends"

I’ve never really understood the concept of friends with benefits. I really in my heart don’t think there’s a way for it to work out beneficial for both people. Just knowing females and the way they think/operate [because I am one] means those “benefits” are going to lead to complications. However, if you’re absolutely sure it’s something you’re willing to give a shot because. . .I don’t know, maybe you’re just in need of action or you’re attracted to the person minus all their personality flaws, I think that these rules should apply:

1.) Be unattached. As in, BOTH of you. If someone’s in a relationship, toying with the idea of a relationship or any of the like then clearly that someone is cheating or a potential cheater. Let’s be grown up about this. No we’re not “friends who mess around.” That’s malarkey.

2.) Set the rules up beautifully from the beginning. The relationship is strictly for hook-up purposes only. This is where ish starts getting complicated because I kind of don’t know of a successful friends with benefits relationship where somebody didn’t catch feelings some kind of way. . .but then if that happens. . .

3.) . . .as soon as feelings are involved END THE RELATIONSHIP!!! I can’t stress this mess enough. Whether it’s the guy or the girl – it does not matter! Unless miraculously you BOTH wanna make a relationship outta thin air happen, just end it. Go back to being friends or acquaintances if you can. Once feelings are involved there is no turning back.

4.) There’s always the chance that your buddy might meet someone they wanna get serious with and when that happens, do not cock block. As Luther Vandross and Beyonce would say, “Let’s get love a try.” You never know – they might end up being something serious and you’ll always be that one person their partner can’t stand because your cockblockin’ self was all up in the mix trying to keep your little hook-up pact going. Be still.

That’s all I’ve got so far. . .obviously, beneficial friends have been on my mind since relationships right now are a bust *sigh* I’m just trying to spread some knowledge. It’s no surprise to me that sixty-two percent of Blacks have experienced more friends with benefits relationships than actual relationships. What's that sayin', huh?

I think you know.